You met the love of your life and now you’re getting married! Congratulations! Unfortunately, your life, job, and responsibilities don’t disappear the moment you become engaged, leaving you free to spend countless hours planning your ideal wedding.
Many couples can’t take time away from their work to call venues and figure out endless details on floral arrangements and customized wedding decor. Which means that you now have to plan a wedding on top of an already hectic life and work schedule.
Don’t panic! There are a number of ways to take the daunting task of wedding planning and make it manageable with your already busy life. Here’s some ideas to get you started.
You are headed into a new marriage and a new life together. Your wedding day is the beginning of a lifetime of making decisions together. Figuring out how you work best as a team starts here. Remember, you are not in this alone. Your wedding is a celebration of your togetherness, so start by diving into wedding planning together.
Set clear expectations on who is responsible for the different aspects of wedding planning, what you are excited to plan and what you are dreading, and discuss the ins-and-outs of how you want your wedding to look and feel. Then work together to brainstorm the most efficient and cooperative way to make everything happen. You are better together!
Unless you are getting married alone in the outback of Australia, it is likely that you have people in your life who love you and want to support your wedding and marriage. Take some time to grab coffee or dinner with your loved ones and ask for their support and help. Your friends may eagerly want to jump in, but are just waiting for you to ask. Be specific about what you need help with - even if it is to simply say that you need help with everything! Setting clear expectations about what you want your support system to take charge of, and what you don’t want them to do, will help you accomplish your expansive wedding to-do list quickly.
We’ve said it already, but setting clear expectations for yourself, your fiancé, and your support team is the key to getting through your wedding to-do list! Share what your hopes are, what you are worried about, and what you’d like people to help you with. You’ll be amazed how people in your life will jump in to help when you share openly.
When sharing your expectations, be clear about what you want and don’t want. Perhaps a simple backyard wedding sounds idyllic to you. Or maybe you want a grand gala. Regardless of your wedding vision, spend some time determining your own expectations for your wedding and then sharing those expectations with your future spouse and your support team. Your wedding vision won’t come to life unless you clearly articulate what you are aiming for!
Make the Most of Your Time
Time is a limited commodity, so find pockets of space in your already busy schedule that you can pack wedding planning to-do’s. If you have a lunch break, make full use of that time to call wedding vendors and sign contracts. Consider waking up an hour earlier once a week to spend some time budgeting and making decisions about your wedding.
Ask your friends to spend an evening helping you wedding plan instead of grabbing drinks at a local restaurant. Or maybe postpone an evening of binge watching your favorite show to discuss your wedding plans with your fiance. There are a number of ways to repurpose time in your schedule to make space for wedding planning. However, don’t procrastinate all your wedding to-do’s, as it will leave you down to the wire without any margin to work out the details. Start early and work in smaller increments that will accumulate over time.
Hire a Wedding Planner
If time feels impossibly short and friends and family can’t step in as much as they would like, it may be time to consider hiring a wedding planner. Knowing that you have a person who is going to ensure that all the details of your wedding are covered will give you the peace of mind you need to focus on your work and relationships. Wedding planners are a worthwhile investment for a busy bride who can’t add anything new to her schedule.
Focus on What’s Important
At the end of the day, remember that your wedding is about you and your fiancé getting married. The details of your wedding will come and go, but your marriage is forever. Take time to invest in your relationship even when you feel the pressure to focus on the wedding event. The wedding day is a moment; your marriage will last a lifetime.
When everything feels crazy, pull back from wedding planning and just enjoy being a couple. You’ll be grateful you did when the wedding day is over, the vows are exchanged, and you are happily married forever after.